The Persuasive Competitor and the Commander can communicate clearly

You can work together more clearly.

Imagine you and Alex leading a deadline meeting. With a Di style, you may want to persuade everyone to back the plan. With a D style, you may want a decision as soon as the goal is clear. Set the decision owner and leave a short, explicit chance to raise concerns.

You can make everyday life together easier.

When arranging a weekend trip, you may both start booking before discussing the destination. The Di preference can bring a persuasive pitch; the D preference can bring a quick choice. Check the destination and budget together before either of you pays a deposit.

If your style is Di, try this with Alex.

• Give Alex your recommendation before explaining how you will get support.
• Ask whether Alex wants your help deciding or carrying out the decision.

If your style is D, try this with Alex.

• Tell Alex which decision you own and which one needs agreement.
• Allow a short discussion of who needs to hear about the plan.

Try a conversation like this.

Adapt these example words to your situation: "Alex, I can explain the plan to the group. Will you make the final call on the deadline after we hear the two main concerns?"

Your styles are one part of the picture

DISC describes communication preferences. It cannot predict whether a relationship will succeed. Your circumstances, values and choices matter too. Use these examples to start a conversation about what fits you both.