The Trusted Encourager and the Supporter can communicate clearly

You can work together more clearly.

You and Alex may both try to make a new colleague comfortable. The Is side may start conversations and offer encouragement. The S side may provide patient help with daily tasks. Agree on who handles which part so neither of you quietly takes on all the support.

You can make everyday life together easier.

When choosing a restaurant, you may each defer because you want the evening to be pleasant. Share a preference before asking Alex to choose. If one choice matters more to you this time, say why and leave Alex room to do the same.

If your style is Is, try this with Alex.

• Offer your own preference before asking Alex what would feel best.
• Check whether your encouragement includes a task you can actually do.

If your style is S, try this with Alex.

• Name one thing that would make the plan comfortable for you.
• Tell Alex when you need a different arrangement, even if the current one seems settled.

Try a conversation like this.

Adapt these example words to your situation: "Alex, I would enjoy the quiet place near home tonight. I am tired and would like time to talk. Is there somewhere you have been hoping to go?"

Your styles are one part of the picture

DISC describes communication preferences. It cannot predict whether a relationship will succeed. Your circumstances, values and choices matter too. Use these examples to start a conversation about what fits you both.